Constructive Confrontations


A horse that pushes against you.
A horse that cuts off your path.
A horse that points its attention to eating grass instead of to you…

Horses often seem to get in conflict, but actually they are testing you in every moment. They don’t do this to┬ádenigrate you, they do this to check what qualities you dispose of in this moment to be able to take care for joint safety. So, they are continuously testing to gather information. We choose how we react on this: are we going to try to block this testing behaviour? Or are we going to accept their invitation to strengthen ourselves by actually dealing with the information given by their testing behaviour?… Horses invite us to recognize and acknowledge irritation in an early stage and to handle this as information in the continuous process of team dynamics.


Confrontations often become personal, or they are avoided. However, confrontations are the glue in successful cooperations: they are a sign of commitment (why would you bother about something you don’t relate to?) and they nourish open communication. When seen as information about what’s going on and about what is needed, instead of as a personal attack, confrontations function as a catalyst.