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\nAt this very moment, my youngest brother is probably giving an amused wink, thinking \u201cHere we go again\u2026\u201d.\u00a0We have gorgeous brother-sister conversations about this topic. According to my brother it exists, according to me it doesn\u2019t.
\nWho\u2019s right? Both of us (although my feeling shouts: \u201cMe!\u201d)<\/p>\n
Coincidence or not, very often things just come together. To me, these things are small signposts that lead to unimaginable \u2018coincidences\u2019. In English there\u2019s a word for it: serendipity.<\/p>\n
One such occurrence brings me to writing this blog.<\/p>\n
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During Summer 2016, I gave a workshop on the Solution Focus Summer Retreat in Szigetmonostor, Hungary. I wanted to share the essence of what I do with my organization Equoia. Reactions were overwhelming. Natalie, one of the Hungarian participants, took me by the shoulders on the last day of the Retreat, looked me straight into the eyes and said: \u201cWendy, this was fantastic. You must promise me to never stop spreading this!\u201d.<\/p>\n
Little did I know that this was to be continued\u2026<\/p>\n
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In February 2017, Natalie sends me a mail. She has been asked to give a workshop on the conference of the International Coach\u00a0Federation in Budapest, and she wants to do this with me. Whether I was in for the idea? For a minute I\u2019m in doubt: the conference takes place in\u00a0the week before I\u2019ve planned the 3rd<\/sup> Guided Tour of Equoia on my own location. This event requires a lot of preparation, that\u2019s why I had wanted to keep the week before free. On the other hand, I really liked the idea of giving this workshop together. Two days before the conference I print the plane tickets and I notice that my name is misspelled. I call the airline company. \u201cThis probably shouldn\u2019t cause any trouble, mrs\u201d. I choose for the safe side and have the mistake corrected. Nothing wil stop me from going to Budapest!<\/p>\n The day before the conference, both enthusiasm and adrenaline take over. I feel like a little child on the evening before Christmas. An hour before going to bed, my adrenaline level even increases when Natalie and I have a last skype conversation in which we last minute alter the concept of the workshop again.<\/p>\n May 17th. Petra, a good friend of mine, is so nice (\u00e1nd so crazy) to call me at 4 a.m. to ensure that I get out of my bed in time. When she calls me, I am already outside, feeding my horses. I take a shower, get ready and at 4.45 a.m. I take off to Brussels South Airport.<\/p>\n Ten minutes earlier than foreseen I land in Budapest, another ten minutes later I am in a taxi to give Natalie a big hug about half an hour before the start of our workshop. Meeting a soulmate!<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Our worksh Reactions are flabbergasting. I am touched by so much acknowledgement.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n During lunch, we chat up\u00a0while now and then people come to us to congratulate us with our workshop, amongst them the chairwoman of ICF Hungary.<\/p>\n After lunch, I follow another workshop together with Natalie, in Hungarian. Natalie translates the background info in English, then there\u2019s an experiment.<\/p>\n A coaching exercise is planned, in groups of three: a coach, a coachee, an observer. I take up the role of observer and ask both others to do the coaching in Hungarian. John Brooker inspired me for this experiment: last Summer in Szigetmonostor, he talked about a Solution Focus coaching during which coach and coachee spoke another language and they didn\u2019t understand each other\u2019s language. The questions of the coach were translated for the coachee, the answers of the coachee were not translated for the coach. Still, it became a successful coaching, thanks to the power of solution focused questions and the information that came from nonverbal communication.<\/p>\n And so I was observing a coaching of which I didn\u2019t understand one single word. After the coaching, I shared what I had noticed about the process between coach and coachee, and this remarkably matched with what both Hungarian colleagues had experienced in the process of their coaching session. Extraordinary!<\/p>\n <\/p>\n At 3 p.m., the taxi picks me up to bring me back to the airport. Check-in goes fast, I have an hour left and find myself a quiet spot to go through the experiences of the day. On the plane I enjoy the view and I muse on happiness\u2026<\/p>\n See next blog\u2026<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"At this very moment, my youngest brother is probably giving an amused wink, thinking \u201cHere we go again\u2026\u201d.\u00a0We have gorgeous brother-sister conversations about this topic. According to my brother it exists, according to me it doesn\u2019t. Who\u2019s right? Both of us (although my feeling shouts: \u201cMe!\u201d) Coincidence or not, very often things just come together. …","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[22],"tags":[],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n
\nI said yes, under the condition that it would take me only one day. A week later my plane tickets are booked and we\u2019ve skyped to set the main frame for the workshop. It feels like we\u2019ve been working together for years.<\/p>\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/www.equoia.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/IMG_4706-300x266.jpg\")
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op (\u201cSelf Reflection: Reflexion of me, myself and you<\/em>\u201d) goes as if we\u2019ve been working together for years. Our last minute preparations on\u00a0skype and the ones I did on the plane this morning remain untouched. Faithful to the message we want to bring, we give direction to what\u00a0pops up, thus creating a workshop that differs again from what we had in mind: a masterly example of \u201cBe prepared, then go with the flow!\u201d.<\/p>\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/www.equoia.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/IMG_4701-300x225.jpg\")
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